I have been blessed with a baby girl, and let me say this clearly and unapologetically: she is not a boon, she is a blessing.
In today’s century, a baby girl and a baby boy are equal. Or at least, they should be.
Yet, despite education, progress, and loud conversations about equality, I still hear people casually suggesting that I should “try for one more baby.” Their confidence is astonishing. According to them, this time it will definitely be a baby boy, and only then will my family be “complete.”
That makes me wonder, who decided that a family is incomplete without a son?
Who gave them the authority to define what a “complete family” looks like?
Is family measured by gender now?
Is love conditional?
Is happiness dependent on chromosomes?
And more importantly, Are They God?
How do they know the next child will be a boy? And if it isn’t, what then? Should I plan for a third child? A fourth? Continue until society is satisfied?
This mindset exposes something deeply troubling. Even in this century, when women lead nations, run corporations, break records, and reshape the world, some still believe a baby boy is the ultimate achievement of parenthood and carries the power to “complete” a family.
A daughter is not a burden.
She is not “someone else’s responsibility.”
She is not born to complete a man’s legacy.
She carries her own legacy.
She is strength.
She is compassion.
She is the future.
It’s time we stop smiling through sexist comments.
It’s time we stop explaining ourselves.
And it’s time we stop letting people measure our worth and our children’s through patriarchy.
A family is built on love, respect, and care not on the gender of a child. My family was complete the moment my daughter arrived. And no outdated thinking can take that away.
It’s time we stop normalizing such horrible thoughts and start questioning them. Not politely but boldly. Because every baby, regardless of gender, deserves to be celebrated.
Just want to conclude that a baby girl is not a boon.
She is a revolution.
